Likely, we all know of or have been involved in scenarios, particularly between two people, that take on the form of blame being tossed back and forth. Yes, the blame game with involved parties “justifying” why the issues of contention aren’t “my fault.”
Some folks typically have the posture of them, in their estimation, being “pure as the driven snow” while, to them, others are usually the culprits of what has caused friction. Such accusatory and unreasonably judgmental folks add to the problems rather than to the solutions. On the other hand, people who fairly assess and acknowledge their roles in the malfunctions succeed in helping in the solution processes if they proceed with amendments relative to where they went awry.
Of course, there are occasions when indeed others are responsible for the conflicts which arose/arise. And such folks are sometimes the very ones who unjustly place blame on us where such isn’t suitably placed. The Lord gives guidance in how to handle such matters.
In the Bible, in 2 Samuel 12, we read where the prophet Nathan, as instructed by the Lord, confronted King David. Nathan spun an account to David about a man who had displeased God. Upon hearing the account, David became angry about what the man had done. He declared to Nathan that the subject man should die. In verse 7, Nathan says to David, “Thou art the man.” Wow, that was sure stunning for David to hear and to receive.
Nathan was a loyal man whose loyalty to God surpassed his loyalty to King David, and rightly so. Our first allegiance should consistently be to God, our Creator.
In the gospel of John, chapter 8, we read where the scribes and Pharisees were eager to have judgment rendered against a woman caught in adultery. Striking that they didn’t present the man who was involved in the adultery with her. They presented their “case” to Jesus.
Jesus had a ready and apt answer to their self-righteous postures. In verse 7, he says to them, “He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.” Not one stone was cast because all of the accusers were convicted in their conscience. The “eager beavers” wilted away from the scene.
Jesus remained to lovingly tend to the woman. He told her that he didn’t condemn her — verse 11 says, “. . . go, and sin no more.”
The Bible tells us in Luke 6:41, 42 – KJV, these words:
“And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but perceives not the beam that is in thine own eye?
“Either, how canst thou say to thy brother, Brother, let me pull out the mote that is in thine eye, when thou thyself beholdest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Thou hypocrite, cast out first the beam out of thine own eye, and then shalt thou see clearly to pull out the mote that is in thy brother’s eye.”
Yes, we need to be mindful to regularly do introspection. Certainly, it’s a beneficial exercise for us as well as for others.