Years ago, I worked with a guy (I’ll call him Dan) who also lived in my community. On occasions, we’d be on the bus at the same time. Dan is a deeply interesting conversationalist with knowledge of various sorts. He and I conversed regularly and both enjoyed our verbal engagements. We all have strengths and weaknesses. One of Dan’s weaknesses was his penchant for being overly critical of people. One day Dan came to sit beside me on the bus. He began to criticize one person after another. Patiently, I listened. When Dan paused long enough for me to get words in without rudely interrupting him, I mentioned that he’d shared about what was wrong with assorted folks. Calmly, I asked, “What’s wrong with you, Dan?” He didn’t answer — obviously, my question angered him. Abruptly, Dan got up and moved to another seat. I didn’t say anything further and that was that. Later, Dan and I continued to engage — neither of us re-visiting our “interesting” chat on the bus. Eventually, Dan left the job so we weren’t co-workers anymore. A bit after Dan, I left the subject workplace, as well. We drifted apart; on rare occasions, we talk on the phone.

Michael Jackson did a song titled, “Man in the Mirror.” I so love that song and still play it sometimes to remind me to make changes within myself rather than blaming others for what transpires . . . The truth of the matter is that, occasionally, I’m the problem, and the one who needs to improve, and alter how I behave and communicate.

How often are we judgmental of people as opposed to evaluating ourselves? Isn’t it easier to point out the faults of others while failing to sufficiently address our own? Truly, society would be so much better if we did what the song says and that is to take a look at ourselves and to make change.

It’s my earnest aim to do more to fix Sandra. God knows what we are capable of accomplishing. Surely, He expects us to purpose to be the best that we can be. Loving is essential. Loving and embracing truths to include loving ourselves and others is necessary to live fruitful and fulfilling lives. Examining what is within us is an ongoing and beneficial exercise. Yes, we sure need to include that in our lifestyle agenda.

Of course, we shouldn’t have inclinations to be hard on ourselves, but to reasonably review our heart conditions and to amend accordingly. Also, there are periods when it’s in order to correct the conduct of others. Certainly, love, perspective, wisdom, and temperance should be in place. We won’t always ace our actions, but we should aim to make purity our goal.

Proverbs 31:9 – KJV
. . . judge righteously, . . .

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Sandra Hicks

Sandra is a native of Washington D.C. who joyously walks with God, and firmly believes in the steadfast flow of love and truth. She is president of a home-based business that specializes in writing, editing, consulting and retail sales of photo products. Her published pieces include essays, inspirational topics and stories, reflections, commentaries, and poetry. In January 2011, one of her inspirational pieces was selected as a Jewel Chest feature on a Christian website. Sandra enjoys photography and snaps shots often in her hometown of Washington, D.C.

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